Life is too short to torture yourself; the best way to stop torturing your life is to be happy with being yourself; be happy who you are or how you look; be happy with your job and with people around you; be happy with where you live; be happy with your life and don’t think that it is impossible to succeed. Accept who you are and stop wishing you looked or acted like someone else; had a job or a boyfriend like someone else or a house or…. Wishes can be endless and all that glitters is not gold. So stop it and start thinking about your life, being yourself is not as hard as it sounds.
Be happy with who you are
Be confident. Being confident about who you are is the first step to success and happiness. Think about your strengths and what you love about yourself; you will soon realize how happy you are to be in your skin. Make a list of all good things about you, think about the compliments you get; if people keep telling you you’re a great friend they can’t be always flattering. Try to enlist as much strength as possible. This is easy and fun. Confidence is key to happiness, but recognizing your flaws is not unimportant. Leave some room for improvement; accept constructive criticism and ignore rude advices. Learn to laugh at yourself, you don’t have to be perfect. Don’t get upset if your friends tease you about your messy habits or always being late. Forgive yourself for something you are less proud of. Maybe your treated your friends with a bit carelessness or cheated your boyfriend or girlfriend or made even more serious mistake. Whatever you did, try to recognize your mistake and acknowledge it, just let it go and focus on your future.
Another important factor for being happy with oneself is to be grateful. Remind yourself how happy you are and don’t get obsessed with your flaws and things you want to change. It will prevent you from being happy just being yourself. Be generous and do some volunteering. Most importantly, appreciate your health, you know how many people suffer from health problems and if you are not one of them, you are very lucky.
And the last and not least factor for being happy with who you are: Don’t forget to laugh. Laughter can be a remedy for many things; Try to be with people who love to laugh, because it is contagious.
When is a better time to set new resolution if not on New Year’s Day? You feel fresh, relaxed and motivated to start new things in the coming year. However, many people had to give up on setting New Year’s resolutions simply because they didn’t work. As a rule, the resolutions set are forgotten in a few days and never acted on. The result is always a feeling of guilt and your friends (if they knew about your resolution) conclude that you are not disciplined enough to follow the resolutions.
New Year’s resolutions can be fulfilled and it don’t require any discipline, you just need the relevant technique. Below you can read about the most common reasons why people fail to achieve their New Year’s resolutions.
Too Many Big Resolutions – don’t be too generous with you resolutions because resolutions like learning new skill, or losing weight can take months to achieve. If there are too many big changes in your list of resolutions, you may end up stretching your efforts too thin over the year or not having enough energy to do well in any of them. Stick to 2 or 3 big resolutions and about dozen small resolutions. Spread your big resolutions across the year and make sure they are not happening together, especially if you have a long working day and you are using free time to work on them.
Don’t personalize you resolutions – For what reason do you want that particular resolution? What will change if the resolution is achieved and what does it mean to you to achieve it? How will you feel if your New Year resolutions are achieved? If you cannot give clear answers to these questions, there is a likelihood you don’t want it badly enough. You should be crystal clear about the importance of your resolutions. Otherwise, you motivation will fade away and you will start finding excuses.
Speed reading is not only about how many words you read per minute; it also helps to instill a new passion for reading. It raises motivation and transforms a person into a voracious reader. If you really are a fast reader, you will read roughly 900 words per minute and about 70 books a year. Here are some tips how to become a speed reader:
1. Use a Pointer
With pointer, your eyes will not be fixed on one spot. They will make brief twitches from your center of focus to grab more information. These movements are called saccades and they are one of the basic tools a novice reader may use to read faster. Usually, after your eyes twitch away, they will go back to their previous position. Whilst reading, this position is moving. Saccades make you slow down as you have to search from your current reading position. To avoid this, use a pointer.
The simplest pointer is the tip of your finger. Put your index finger below a line of text and follow the text. Using a pointer will be slower than regular reading, however, once you get used to the motion and read more effectively
2. Speed Reading Is About Control, Not Speed
Speed reading is not only about going faster, it is about controlling your reading rate. If you’re in a racecar, top speed is vital; the driver should control and adjust speed to make careful turns, the same is with reading. The ability to control you speed will make you a better and more efficient reader and you won’t be just blazing through text.
Actually, the pointer helps a lot in terms of control, because you don’t only use eyes, but a hand to adjust the reading speed. More you move your hand, faster you will read. Or vice versa, if you slow your pointer down, your reading speed will slow down too. By controlling the reading speed, you will be able to carefully read complicated parts of the text and go faster with obvious text.
3. Avoid sub-vocalization
Many people learned reading by vocalization, i.e. they spoke words aloud. “Jill goes up the hill,” each word is pronounced earnestly by the student. Speaking aloud slows your reading speed, but it is not always a bad thing. Sub-vocalization isn’t always a bad thing because it helps you understand and follow a narrative. However, it is not strictly necessary for comprehension. Some people do not need every single word to understand the idea and the meaning of a sentence. If you manage to read without sub-vocalization, your reading rate will increase which will work for easy to understand texts. It isn’t the same as skimming, you still have to move your pointer across every word. If you try to move your pointer faster than you can read words inside your head, you will get rid of the habit of automatically sub-vocalizing.
We all have a moment in life when all of sudden, we feel fed up with what we are doing now and want rapid changes. Some of us manage to make an instant decision to change and enjoy a better life, while others fail to do it. In some cases, you need to act first instead of sitting and dreaming without doing anything. Changing your life is a lifetime experience and a big challenge; let’s have a look at the first steps toward a new life:
1.Write a Plan
Write out a detailed plan what you’d like to change. Try to be specific, avoid big and vague statements. Grab a piece of paper and a pen, take a seat and write down the following things, don’t waste time on too much thinking, just the first things that come to your mind. So go ahead: is there anything that you like or dislike in your current life? This is important because you should be aware of what you like as well as what you dislike in order not to wreck positives in your life. Listing of strengths and weaknesses might also be helpful. In this way you will be more confident about what needs to be changed.
Are you happy with how you look? Do you need to gain or lose some weight? Do you like your hair color or the fashion style? Have a look at the list and pick out 3 or 5 things that you think should be changed. Again, do not think much, just write down the steps you need to take urgently for rapid changes. You can always adjust these later.
After making a shortlist, go through it again and read thoroughly. You have just developed your personal road map to change. With time, this map will become even more refined for now it is enough. You did a good job, now you need to break your big steps into smaller more concrete and realistic items. For example, if you have decided you hate your job and want to quit it, pick out the steps that will lead you to the process.
Make general statements more action-oriented and concrete, e.g. instead of writing something generic, like “will consult with lawyer”, you can pick something actionable and specific, e.g. “take an attitude test”.
Instead of big projects choose small to-dos. E.g. avoid “find a new job”, break it down to “update my resume”, “search new companies”, “open a Linkedln profile” or “write a letter of resignation”. These small actionable items, while seemingly unimportant will help you make that big change.
Not everyone can afford going to college, but everyone can afford learning. Sources of information, educational videos, audio and printed materials can be obtained from many places, either your local public library or an Internet Archive. It is important to have an aspiration to learn. Every piece of knowledge you add to your
While the people around you may not respect your self-educated knowledge, learning can be incredibly satisfying; the advantage of learning something on your own means that you can lead conversations on many subjects and that you have control over your thoughts. Becoming self-educated requires a great discipline. It also requires the ability to learn on your own. Here are some tips how to educate yourself without even stepping into a school.
1.Read a book
Without a doubt this is one of the best ways to learn a new subject. If you are entirely unaware of the topic or if you think it might be interesting, take a simpler book and start with it. Controversial books may also be helpful for motivating you to learn more. Getting angry or passionate over the author’s opinion makes you willing to learn more about the topic and to provide more arguments against it.
2. Find a mentor
With a mentor, you are more likely to keep up with a subject because someone is helping you along. Especially, if you are a person with a sense of responsibility, you will feel uneasy not to be prepared for a lesson. A mentor will save your time to guide you to the best sources, will answer your questions and chat with you on the subject. It is important to find a mentor who is encouraging and respectful. Of course, you don’t want this person to take control of your education, he or she should be guiding and encouraging you.
Home sweet home, nothing can be dearer than your home, it is the place where you hang your heart is and where you feel yourself the most protected; At least that’s how we see it. However, it turns out that it is not as safe as thought, because it is also a place where tons of hidden health dangers reside and you may become sick from what you breathe and touch in your house. So to keep your family safe, read the below given 7 hazards and tools how to protect yourself.
1. Carpet chemicals
Redecorating or renovating of your house gives you a great pleasure but it may also give you a headache, especially if you buy a wall-to-wall or area rug that gives off that new carpet smell; The specific odor comes from 4-PC, a chemical in carpet backing. The smell will go away within a few days or even weeks, but meanwhile it may cause temporary headaches and hoarseness in people who are sensitive to chemicals.
Ideally, we should air the new carpet before installation. However, it is not always possible, so keep the carpeted room well-ventilated and try to stay out if you’re sensitive to 4-PC. Now, what you need to do if the carpet odor is giving off gas: Take a clean, white, fragrance-free ordinary paper towel and fold it in half twice. Put it on a section on the rug and cover it with aluminum foil secured with tape. Leave if for 24 hours and then fold the towel inside the foil quickly. Take it outside and unwrap it just enough to take a whiff. If it has a bad smell, your carpet is giving off gas.
2. Dust mites
Dust mites are the cosmopolitan guests in human dwelling. They feed on organic detritus like flakes of shed human skin or simply flourish on the stable environment of houses. They cannot be seen with the naked eyes, but are rather dangerous for your health, they can cause asthma or allergic symptoms. Dust mites need moisture; they feed off the dead skin cells that our bodies shed. Normally, they hide in beds, mattresses, pillows and sheets. Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do to prevent dust mites from capturing our houses; they are part of our lives.
There is no way to get rid of them; you just have to put a barrier between you and them. Here are some tips how to do this:
• Use allergy covers since they’re woven and even dust mites find it hard to slip through them. Seal your pillows, mattress, comforter and box spring (normally, they are available in the stores where sheets are sold.)
• Wash your bed linen and rugs in hot water at least once a week
• If some of your bed items (like a special pillow or stuffed animal) cannot be washed, put them in the freezer for a few hours at a time to kill dust mites.
• Avoid going to bed with wet hair not to give the mites more moisture.
• Regularly vacuum all floors and carpets where dust mites like sheltering.
Coffee has become the subject of thousands of surveys in the past few years. Known as a simple stimulant it also has many other properties. Here are some of the most interesting statistics we could put together for proponents of coffee for healthier living.
At least 5% of surveys reveal that drinking coffee is associated with a decreased risk of mortality in men and women. For example, a long and large-scale survey, which studied more than 400,000 people, revealed that more coffee the men drink, the lower is their risk of mortality. By the survey results, men who drank 2 to 3 cups of coffee a day, showed a 10 percent lower risk of mortality and those people who had 4 to 5 cups a day showed even lower indicator, i.e. by 12%. Taking over 6 or more cups a day, decreased mortality by another 10 percent. As for women, the figures are a bit higher in women; they are affected by such parameters as age, body fat, race, education, and lifestyle factors.
2. Improves Cholesterol Balance
The coffee contains antioxidants which can balance the level of total cholesterol, increase “good” HDL cholesterol and lower heart disease-related inflammation. In one of the studies, coffee drinkers were asked to raise their coffee intake to 4 and then to 8 cups a day. This dose improved the ratio between “bad” LDL and HDL cholesterol by more than 8 percent.
3. Decreases Metabolic Syndrome
Metabolic syndrome is one of the most serious and very common health problems in the world; it can increase risks of heart failure and diabetes. Coffee drinking is good for fat burning and it potentially affects the body composition and lowers the diabetes risk.