This should actually go without saying, but another very common mistake that people tend to make when they are trying to break up with their partners is that they become instantly distant and cold. You do not need to be overly emotional, but keep in mind that your intention to break up will often take your partner by surprise, so showing some basic affection and warmth can help him or her deal with the heartache faster and easier.
7. Find the Right Time
Choosing the right time to break up with your partner is vital, since this can ultimately go a long way in deciding whether you can maintain a good relationship or become bitter or adversarial. While there is no such thing as the perfect time to drop such bad news, you can minimize the impact by avoiding ‘dropping the bomb’ before a holiday or a particularly important occasion or celebration.
8. Try Not to Overreact or Argue
Last, but not least, it is important to understand that breaking up with someone can inflict serious emotional pain on both parties, and the chances are that you will tend to argue and overreact. Some people do not handle rejection well at all, and cannot bear to think about life without the partner, while others simply have a large ego that gets hurt during the breakup.
People can react very differently to this kind of situation, and it is important to be prepared for any situation you may encounter, and to try to keep calm no matter what. If the tension escalates, then it may be best to stay calm or to leave, if you feel that you cannot refrain yourself from starting an argument or saying things you will regret later.